Lovemakers

Your Boundaries, Not Theirs

Need to say "no" more often but struggle with feeling guilty? In this insightful episode, we get brutally honest about boundaries - those invisible and not so invisible lines we all need for healthy relationships. Discover the key ingredients for cultivating boundaries that actually stick.
We navigate tricky scenarios like an overstaying houseguest or a partner's hurtful language, role-playing practical examples of how to uphold your boundaries with clarity and compassion. Spoiler alert: It doesn't mean being rude or controlling others' behavior!
From extroverted-introverted clashes to unsolicited advice, our personal stories expose the toxic patterns that emerge when boundaries are blurred. Get ready for an eye-opening exploration of this oft-misunderstood concept. By the end, you'll be empowered to stop abandoning yourself for others and finally respect your deepest needs. Reclaim your power with us as we decode the art of boundaries.

Part 4/4 - This Will Change Your Approach to Conflict Forever

In the final episode of our four-part series on nonviolent communication (NVC), we wrap up our exploration of conflict resolution with a deep dive into the art of making compassionate requests. Together, we’ve journeyed through the foundational steps of NVC - observing without judgment, understanding and expressing our feelings, and identifying our underlying needs. Now, we bring it all together, showing how these principles can transform conflict into opportunities for growth and connection.
In this episode, we share candid conversations and practical examples, demonstrating the power of specificity in requests. From managing household chores to reconciling differing lifestyle preferences, we illustrate how clear, compassionate communication can lead to creative solutions that respect each partner’s autonomy. It's not just about finding a middle ground; it's about enriching our relationships through mutual understanding and empathy.
Moreover, we tackle the nuances of setting boundaries versus making requests, and why practicing NVC is crucial beyond just understanding its concepts. Whether it's dealing with unmet needs in a relationship or navigating the complexities of cohabitation, we emphasize the importance of empathy, patience, and openness in every interaction.
Join us in this heartfelt finale as we reflect on our key takeaways from the series and share our personal experiences with NVC. It’s not just a methodology; it’s a pathway to deeper connections and a more compassionate world. Tune into Lovemakers for insights, laughter, and lessons on turning every conversation into an opportunity for connection and growth. Together, let’s make love, not conflict
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Music: Serenity by Ra

Part 3/4 - This Will Change Your Approach to Conflict Forever

Join us as we dive headfirst into the creamy, peanut buttery center of human emotions in part 3 of our "Conflict Resolution 101" series. It’s where we sort out the crunchy bits of needs versus demands the NVC way, all without sticking to the roof of your mouth.
We shed light on the significance of articulating our needs effectively, not for the sake of victory but for the purpose of fostering genuine understanding and connection. By differentiating between authentic needs and the strategies we mistakenly employ, we pave the way for more sincere and impactful communication. Plus, you'll get to witness a rare event: a husband admitting he was wrong (mark your calendars!).
So, join us on this enlightening journey as we explore the fundamental principles of nonviolent communication. Tune in to discover how to navigate the complexities of human needs and turn conflict into collaboration.
To hear our previous episodes in the this series head to: https://innermeetsouter.podbean.com/
Get the show notes and resources spoken about in the show at  InnerMeetsOuter.com
 
Music: Serenity by Ra

Part 2/4 - This Will Change Your Approach to Conflict Forever

This week on Lovemakers, we're keeping it real by tackling one of the trickiest parts of communication - getting in touch with our feelings. Last time, we worked on seeing situations objectively without jumping to judgments. Now we're taking the next step by learning how to identify and express what's actually going on inside us emotionally.
Through some pretty relatable personal stories (get ready for some awkward moments), we'll explore the common traps we all fall into. Like convincing ourselves "I feel rejected" when the core feeling is more about sadness or insecurity. You'll get a masterclass in building up your emotional vocabulary beyond the basics.
The goal is being able to vulnerability share "I feel anxious because I need more quality time together" instead of blaming comments like "You're always working!" We'll break down helpful techniques for owning your feelings without making it about the other person's actions.
It's not easy stuff, but having this emotional awareness is a game-changer for your relationships and personal growth. Whether it's with your partner, friend, or just your internal monologue, this is how you start communicating from an authentic, non-judgmental place. Get ready to feel all the feels with us as we dive into this crucial topic. Let's start getting real!
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Music: Serenity by Ra

Part 1/4 - This Will Change Your Approach to Conflict Forever

In this week's episode of Lovemakers, we peel back the layers of personal growth and better relationships. Today marks the exciting start of our four-part series on Conflict Resolution 101, a guide filled with insights, strategies, and our personal stories to help you navigate and dissolve conflicts while deepening your relationship bonds.
We're diving deep into Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a transformative approach that's all about fostering understanding and empathy. We can't overstate how simply amazing this communication style is. It has revolutionized how we handle not only the communication between the two of us, but also how we speak to ourselves. 
Join us as we explore the power of language and self-awareness in shaping our interactions. We'll break down the steps to turn confrontations into opportunities for growth.
Tune in if you're looking to bring more harmony into your relationships and turn everyday conflicts into stepping stones for personal development.
 
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Music: Serenity by Ra

How and Why Self-Love Leads to Romantic Love

Hey there, it's 'Lovemakers,' coming to you with warm hearts from chilly Korea. This podcast is our cozy little corner where we get personal about our own self-love journeys and how they've unexpectedly led us to richer, more genuine romantic experiences. 
We're getting real with you, sharing our own personal stories of the highs and lows we've experienced, and how we've learned to embrace and apply self-love in our own lives. We'll share the laughs and the lessons we've learned about setting boundaries, treating ourselves right, and the fine line between self-care and indulgence. It's about getting to know yourself, really know yourself, and how that's changed the way we approach relationships for the better.
So, if you're looking for a sign to start loving yourself more or just need some friendly voices to guide you through your own self-love journey, join us on 'Lovemakers.' We're here to share, laugh, and grow with you. Because at the end of the day, the relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for all the others. Let's figure this out together. Sending you all our love – Daniel and Jayde.
 
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Music: Serenity by Ra

The Sentence that Can Transform Relationships

Welcome back to another electrifying episode of "Love Makers," where your hosts, Daniel and Jayde, dive deep into the transformative power of a simple sentence that can revolutionize your relationships: "The story I’m telling myself." This phrase is not just a string of words; it's the heartbeat of our mission at Inner Meets Outer, where we're all about supercharging lives with more agency and gratitude. Through tales from our own lives and the insights we've gained from coaching others, we'll show you how this sentence is a game-changer for fostering deeper connections across the board—be it with your partner, yourself, your family, or even your colleagues.
Get ready as we explore the fascinating ways our brains craft stories to navigate the complexities of life. We're peeling back the layers on how these narratives can shape our realities, for better or worse. With a mix of personal anecdotes and dynamic discussion, we'll reveal the magic—and the mischief—of unchecked stories and how they can lead to a comedy of errors in our interactions.
Our episode unfolds in two thrilling segments: First up, we're taking a journey inward, exploring the lush landscape of our inner thoughts and feelings triggered by "The story I’m telling myself." It's about turning the lens on ourselves, examining the narratives that color our world. Then, we shift gears to the practical magic of sharing these revelations with others. We're packing this part with actionable advice, real-life examples, and maybe even a few secret tips on navigating the choppy waters of communication, ensuring every listener comes away with the tools they need to strengthen their relational bonds.
Let's transform the way we see our stories and, in turn, revolutionize our relationships. Welcome to "Love Makers," where every conversation is an adventure.
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Music: Serenity by Ra

The Truth About Love

In this episode, we open up a candid conversation on what it truly means to love and be loved.  It's a topic close to our hearts - the essence of love, challenging the conventional happily-ever-afters painted by fairy tales and movies.
As Valentine's season envelops us, we explore the misconceptions surrounding love as an end goal and debunk the myths of love being the ultimate destination.  We talk about why finding a person that completes you is not all that it's cracked up to be.
This episode is a blend of crunchy truths and creamy wisdom, dissecting the illusions of idealistic love and offering a fresh perspective on building a relationship based on choice, not necessity.  It's a reminder that love is not a destination but a journey of growth, choice, and continuous discovery. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, this episode will challenge your perceptions of love, encouraging you to view it not as a fairy tale ending but as an ongoing adventure of mutual choice and empowerment.
 
*DISCLAIMER* - Daniel's voice is off this week due to a massive cold he had. Please have patience with his voice quality. Thank you.
 
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Music: Serenity by Ra

5 Unexpected Habits That Can Transform Any Relationship

Join us as we peel back the curtain on what keeps relationships ticking. This isn't your average love advice episode; it's a deep dive into the real stuff that makes or breaks the connection between two people. It's about the stuff that is much more powerful than the grand romantic gestures you see in movies; here, we're talking about the small, everyday actions and attitudes that build a solid foundation for love.
But it's not just about what goes right; they also explore the 'crunchy' side of these habits, where challenges and efforts meet, offering a raw and honest look at the work involved in love.
Ever wondered how something as simple as peanut butter could relate to relationship wisdom? Or how hitting the pause button during conflict can transform your approach to resolution? We share personal anecdotes and professional insights that will leave you pondering the depth of your own relationships.
This episode is for anyone who's ever wondered about the behind-the-scenes of a strong relationship. It's a laid-back chat filled with real talk about the habits and practices that matter most. Whether you're deep in a partnership or just pondering what makes relationships work, tune in for some enlightening conversation.
 
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Music: Serenity by Ra

Leveling Up 2024 Together

We'll delve into reflections from the past year, highlighting the significance of reflection as an individual and as a couple. Picture it as a means of taking stock of your emotional inventory, much like checking your fridge before you go grocery shopping. 
We'll navigate through neuroscience and discuss how our brain recognises patterns. This segment will further explain the impact of being intentional about breaking negative habits for personal improvement.
Episode Sneak-Peeks:* Emotional Check-In: Dive into a Year-in-Review with 1 simple tool* 5 Questions to go deeper: these questions are guaranteed to make the review worth while for you and for your loved one. * A fun comparison between life events and peanut butter types (sounds nutty, right?)* Our personal habits and routines based on our experiences and understandings.* 3 words to create and elevate your 2024
Tune in to our discussions on better communication in relationships. We'll share tips and examples that underscore the importance of understanding and empathy.
We'll guide you through self-reflection exercises and goal-setting mechanisms, with questions that will make you ponder your aspirations and ways you can achieve them.
Remember, we are here to share love and inspire. We believe everyone deserves love, and through this podcast, we hope to send a whole lot of it your way.
Get the show notes and resources spoken about in the show at InnerMeetsOuter.com
 
Music: Serenity by Ra